I've been thinking alot about New Year's and my resolutions. I've come up with two very different ones. Hopefully I can work on putting them both into action! The first one will be pretty easy but it is the second one I'm worried about.
First, I'm going to work on making Ashley do more things that she doesn't want to do. I know that probably sounds mean but let me explain myself. She is 14 1/2 years old and basically doesn't want to do anything ever. She'd be happy to stay in her room playing on the computer & watching tv all the time. I want to work on pushing her just alittle. I'm very blessed to get to homeschool her but sometimes I think that just adds to the problem. She has very little structure in her life. She's also very shy, like her dad, and finds it tough to reach out & be social. So for part of my New Year's resolution I'm going to work on pushing her to be alittle more outgoing and social. Basically I'm just going to try to convince her to do a few different things that she doesn't think she wants to do just because it is easier to stay home & be with us. She probably isn't going to like it very well but really what does a 14 1/2 year old like most of the time!! :)
Second, I'm going to work on NOT making Tom do things that he doesn't want to do. I have a problem of being controlling in our marriage and always wanting things to be my way. I try to convince or beg Tom do always go along with things the way I want them. I'm going to make a HUGE effort to stop that this year. I am going to work on not trying to manipulate him into doing anything that he doesn't want to do. He is a great husband and I need to just appreciate him the way he is. He should never, ever have to do things he doesn't want to do just because I'm trying to make him. Now, this is going to be very hard for me. I really hate to admit that but it is true! I suppose secretly I'm hoping that it turns out that the things I think I'm "making" him do are actually things he wants to do on his own. But if not then I need to be alright with that too!!
So, I pray that God will help me to keep these two resolutions. I really feel as though the will help make both my husband's and my daughter's lives better in the long run. I hope I can do it!
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I think that the resolution with your daughter is great! Not being married, I have no opinion on the hubby one, but having been in serious relationships, I think I am the same way as you are with your hubby. :)
Anyway, just a thought about your daughter, get her to sign up for volunteering or something. It definitely can bring you out of your comfort zone and you will meet some great people. The group that I am in volunteers at a free store for teachers, at walks in the fall and summer, in different offices - JDRF, Leukemia and Lymphoma Soceity - and we are doing good things and meeting others at the same time.
I used to be like your daughter and if I am not careful, I can get back to that very quickly. There is nothing better than holing up in the house for an entire weekend and doing nothing but watching TV and quilting! But if I have somewhere to go to volunteer on the weekend, it prevents that for the whole weekend. And I get the sense of helping others! It has really helped me get out of m,y comfort zone.
Anyway, I think that these are great resolutions!
Lisa,
I feel your resolution is great for your daughter. I have 5 children ages 7 to 17. None of my children are shy. I am a very outgoing person but suffer from social anxiety at times. I found that service is one of the best ways to get out of it. Just a thought. Hugs, Bobbi Jo-AZ
Great idea's ,fine something your daughter loves to do then get her to volunteer ,if computers is it maybe she could help out a younger person at school or a neighbor.
my 12 and a half year old doesn't like to do chores ( no kidding who does, right?) it's the attitude he gets that is a big NO NO inour house. I can cook and clean but I ask him to switch out laundry and there is attitude! Not going to happen. I understand completely. It must be hormones! - Briana http://www.homesteadblogger.com/innisfreeinalaska/
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